Proscrastination or Something Else?Fri, Apr 20th 2007
I procrastinate about many, many things and it's practically destroyed my life. I'm 53, moved in with my widowed Mom 17 years ago, make only a marginal income, have no spouse or offspring or friends. I'm too embarassed and ashamed to pursue new friendships or even to allow the few good old friends I used to have stay in contact with me. And, I'm actually fairly personable --believe it or not! But heres the thing -- and I wonder if there's any connection to procrastination for me. I shake my hands vigorously, almost always unconciously, whenever I feel like I've accomplished something, or even if I think about or anticipate (exited?) accomplishing something. It looks and feels very weird when I do it (my face even contorts somewhat) and I've always been afraid of being caught doing it. I guess the only way I can stop it completely is to kind of not do much and to not think (fantasize) about doing much or to get too excited as a spectator of something, say for instance a sporting event on TV. Iv'e had this unconcious physical compulsion since I was a little boy. Could you provide any insight or direction for me? I don't want to see a professional or even describe --in person-- what I just described to you (let alone give a demonstration!) unless I have at least some idea what the hell this is, going in. I don't have much time left to try to build some sort of a, not so isolated, not so hopeless, not so useless life.
Thank you for your website offerings and thank you for your time. Sincerely, Mike C.
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